Triggering Automatic Female Lust

Female lust is something I know a little something about. One might say (as I buff my nails) I’m an expert on the subject. So when a friend sent me this link, I was amused, and quickly annoyed because it’s so stupid yet so compulsively readable. I don’t know how to explain the fugue states when I can sit down and read something for hours and get completely engrossed. Its just something that happens, and that’s what happened here. I realize that most men don’t read crap like this (I hope not…but on the other hand, it might explain a few things.) But its amusing and being that I am, in fact, a woman, I thought I’d comment on this helpful article titled, “Triggering Automatic Female Lust.”

Contrary to what you see every week on ‘Sex and the City’, women are the complete opposite of men in that, the more *anonymous* the sexual encounter, the LESS gratifying they find it to be.

Wow. Really?

Unlike the fictional uber-slut Miranda, satisfying sex does not begin and end with the quest to find someone new to have an orgasm with.

Miranda? The dyke-ish redhead? The one who had a baby and hates sex? That one?

For the vast majority of women, the MORE connected they feel to their partner, the more overwhelming the total sexual experience is for them.

Wow. Why would that be?

Just the reverse of typical male thinking, right? Men are intensely turned on by the thought of having sex with a woman for that very FIRST time, or by scoring a one-night stand with a perfect stranger, or perhaps fantasizing about being in a porno movie and having wanton sex with dozens of hot women he hardly knows.


The common link between all these scenarios is that there is NO emotional bonding involved. Hell, there’s hardly even an exchange of names! For the man, the more anonymous the sex the more *exciting* the idea of the conquest.

How the two genders make use of (and even exploit) this knowledge of each other’s romantic weakness, however, is an entirely DIFFERENT story.

Women know exactly how to turn men on by manipulating this hardwired ‘quirk’ in their character that absolves them of the need to actually know anything about a woman who has triggered his desire to mate. How? Simply by pushing this uniquely male “anonymous sex” button long and often… by acting sexy AND remaining emotionally aloof at the same time. The stripper, the table dancer, the whore. The molten hot stranger. Any persona will do — and all are quite useful when their design is seduction!

Oh yes, we are alluring devils, are we not. With our high tech sluttery, we can do anything.

Men, on the other hand, seem mostly clueless about how to turn the tables and pull off the same trick. In fact, the prevailing feeling is that female lust is such a mysterious and unfathomable ‘holy grail’ so rarely encountered in real life that it’s taken on a kind of mythical quality.

Okay, dude, I’m just going to be honest with you. It’s YOU. Nobody wants YOU. I saw your picture on the column, and let’s face it, you’re hideous. Not that being hideous would be such a bad thing, but add hideous to being a misogynist asshole and there you have yourself an un-laid troglodyte like yourself. You can’t write worth a damn, which is fine, lots of people can’t, but it makes me think you’re unable to speak well either, and THAT might have something to do with the fact that you’re not getting laid.

I guess some women just have it for certain men… and not for others, and there’s no understanding the reasons why.

Oh dear God. Yeah, it’s all a big mystery why some women want to sleep with Guy X but not Guy Y. Look, if you’re too stupid to see the fundamental flaw in your reasoning, you have absolutely no business showing your penis to anyone ever, lest you accidentally procreate.

But can female lust be triggered by the deliberate actions of a man? I say absolutely yes.

Maybe, but not by you.

Women get sexually turned on just as men do of course, but — owing to differences in reproductive biology — by a completely different set of mental processes. Men go for a VISUAL look that suggests youthfulness and thus fertility. But females aren’t interested in a man’s age so much because males remain virile well into the later part of their lifespan.

What they look for, instead, are signs of male POWER.

Or intelligence, sense of humor, stable job, treats children with kindness, respects old people, can chew with his mouth closed, observes basic societal norms vis a vis grooming and behavior, has an interesting life story, is polite, can speak in coherent sentences, and generally acts like a productive member of society, has a bond with the woman he is desperate to bone.

You see, women possess a deeply-rooted pre-intellectual *instinct* which compels them to submit themselves for copulation in the presence of what they sense to be a DOMINANT MALE.

Tears! Oh my God, literal tears are falling from my eyes. I have never submitted to anyone before…okay, I take that back. He had a whip, and I was really, really drunk…. But just that once!

Look, douchenozzle, you’re an idiot. If you believe even 1/10 of this crap that you’re writing, you’re so fucking retarded you shouldn’t even be allowed on the internet, and that’s saying something.

They cannot help feeling like this — despite the fact that the modern woman manages to suppress the urge to act on these feelings most of the time (but, not always…). So when a man learns how to project the most subtlest of gestures, actions and attitudes that suggest he’s a “dominant male”, he can force a woman’s subconscious mating desires to become aroused WHETHER SHE LIKES IT OR NOT.

Or, instead of that, just buy some ruffies to drop into the drink you refuse to buy for her. Seriously, so much easier than actually, you know, trying to talk to her.

And some of them won’t like it a bit. She may get upset because you’ve forced her to experience a potent feeling which she may feel compelled to conceal with the workings of her more rational mind.

So she’ll be overwhelmed with lust, yet will resist because all the powers of her intellect are saying, STOP, THIS GUY IS AN INBRED RETARD? However will you get her to ignore that pesky mind?

And yet when a woman consents to have sex with a man who has set off these automatic desires in her, she stands to enter into the hottest, most fulfilling sensual experience that it is possible for her to have. And she knows it.

Consents. See, that’s one of the major problems with men in general, I think, and douchenozzles like this in specific: they forget or don’t care that there’s another person on the other side of the transaction. She must be talked into sex, or be manipulated, or you must exude your POWER which will have her lying on the floor of the bar with her legs open and a do-me-now expression on her face because she just can’t control the molten lust that is coursing through her body. Maybe, if you’re a decent enough guy and treat her with respect and maybe if you actually manage to spark some chemistry with her, she’ll want to fuck you. Ever thought about that?

…AND she’s also frightened of it — because once unleashed in this way, it can be difficult to stem the cascade of all-consuming passion. She risks taking the kind of social and romantic chance that only happens a precious few times in her life. Can she allow herself to become addicted to a man who can make her see stars?

You’re an idiot. Seriously, if you believe any of this, you’re a moron. Yes, we get so frightened of our lust that we shudder. Your manliness is too much for us! We’re just girls. Please, please turn off this enormous power you have over us!

By learning to adopt the actions and attitudes of the dominant male, it is possible to create these sort of emotional disturbances in women at will.

Oh I have no doubt you’ll leave some women emotionally disturbed.

Almost any girl that you can manage to talk to in a SPECIFIC sort of way can have her “lust triggers” ignited like a blow torch. And when the ability to seduce becomes more a skill than mere luck, your chances of suffering the humiliation of being rejected vanish too. Now you have done more than learned to act the part of a dominant male, you have *become* one. And truthfully, there’s no real difference.

Because in this game, acting is BEING.


In what other game is acting, BEING? If I act like a doctor, does that make me really a doctor?No. And this is a ridiculous exercise anyway. As I said, if you have to resort to these sorts of games, it says to me (and most women) that you’re a loser who has to resort to games.

There is no big mystery about female lust. In order to arouse it, just be a great guy. I realize that is subjective, but it’s the way all the “powerful” guys are getting laid. They’re just … you know, MORE DESIRABLE THAN YOU.

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  1. Yes, a pretty silly and obnoxious piece. I disagree with his assertion that guys prefer anonymous sex…I think most guys would prefer sex when they are strongly attracted to a woman’s PERSONALITY as well as her physical attributes.

    There is some truth, though, about status being an attractor. Think about a rock star who is ugly, dislikes kids, is rude to old people, speaks incoherently, and has bad teeth. He’ll probably be able to have sex with a lot of women. Same is true for an obnoxious but prominent CEO. But OTOH, a guy who is kind, empathetic, decent looking, and well-spoken but who has a stable but low status job–is likely NOT going to do so well at attracting women.

    Status isn’t the only factor in attracting women, but it is an important one.

  2. caraellison says:

    I don’t agree. Your example of the rock star is apt, but what kind of women are hanging around them? 20 year old C-list bikini models? Hookers? Not Ph.D candidates. Not women who have any kind of career path. If that’s the sort of person a guy wants to screw, more power to him.

    Your example of the “kind empathetic, decent looking and well spoken guy” is just the kind of guy most girls are looking for. Despite what this idiot (the writer) says, women aren’t that easily wowed by power and money. We’re not idiots. We’re not fooled by the trappings of wealth which so many guys seem to think is the key to getting laid.

  3. Cara…very true that the PhD candidate is unlikely to be attracted to the rock star. But isn’t it likely that she will be attracted to the professor who is influential in her field?…it that’s the kind of status she care about and is important to her circle of friends?

    Again, I’m not saying status is as all-important as the writer of the seduction screed seems to think, nor is it as easily faked as he seems to be saying. But it’s not a trivial factor, either.

  4. caraellison says:

    I think I see what you’re saying. And yes, people can be attracted to people for all sorts of reasons. But I don’t think that merely being influential is enough to make women weak in the knees.

    I’ve kissed millionaires and princes, as well as boys who had not even two dollars to their names. It’s not the money or status – it’s the person that makes a man attractive.

    So we’re in agreement that it’s not all-important and it’s not something that can be faked.

    I think this loser’s essay is sort of a chicken and egg issue. The sort of man who would read this and take it seriously is probably not getting with women because he’s awkward, or gross, or just dumb. His best hope is to find somebody dumb enough to fall for his obvious attempts at faking the aura of power. The way I see it, if the guy is successful at this stuff, he deserves exactly who he gets.

    I like your comments though – they’re thoughtful.

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